Download the first chapter "Consequences and Effective Parenting" today! November 23, Parenting Allies Parenting is tough - we all need friends! Follow Us! Total Transformation Program Free The days of isolation, frustration and embarrassment will be over. It is a fairly simple process. You are being supported. Here are others who believe in the Total Transformation program too! Jackie says:.
I purchased the program a few weeks ago and I love it, my son just turned 4 but has already been acting out. I am already seeing changes in his behavior, but you have to really listen to and then apply the information.
If the outcome is as she described, with her brothers and sisters being well-adjusted people who love and respect their mother, I suspect the spanking was not severe corporal punishment, but a consistent consequence, and any consequence that is relevant, administered in a way that makes sense, and consistent would probably work as well.
Like for instance, during recess a little girl decided it was a good idea to put water in her shoes. But obviously times have changed since 17 years ago when I was their age. I would like to add my two cents worth. When I was raising my children, I used spanking, as did my parents. Along with that nonsense, call me a conspiracy theorist, if you wish , there is something else working against parents and children nowadays.
Be it the additives in the food, chemicals in the water, or whatever the cause, children are becoming harder and harder to control. I am thinking that if Total Transformation would help a child in this crazy world, who should knock it? Why do folks have to get so insulting and mean with each other here? Why make your comments personal against one another?
Hmmm… begs lots of questions. Anyway, there is nothing wrong for folks to use their critical thinking skills and question a product, especially one that is so costly.
As a fraud investigator, I find it coincidental that he works so close to the company — begs the question of whether he has any ties to the company — a family member on the staff, is he on the staff, etc. Regardless, it seems to me there are other less costly options, such as going to your library to read up on behavior modification, seeking professional counseling, etc.
I think that insulting one another says alot about how they solve problems and possibly how they parent. I think that this program is interesting and as an educator of young children, I do wonder about how it might work in the classroom. As a parent myself I do believe that spanking is okay. I believe in other forms of discipline as well. I do not think that screaming works or using the same discipline tactics each time works either.
However when in the classroom, I cannot use spanking as a form of discipline. Even speaking firmly is difficult with children who are not used to that kind of communication from their own parent and it may frighten them.
I understand concerns from parents because I am a parent but what I think is a problem is when the parents cry with the child and give in to keeping them at home or autimatically assume that their child is being mistreated and the teacher must be doing something to make them not want to come to school. We have tried everything we know of…including, time out, groundings, taking items from them, going to several difference kinds of counselors…and we have unfortunately gotten the courts involved.
Now we have a juvenile probation officer in the mix…to no avale. We are at our wits end…. She will not follow a single rule…. I guess that makes the misbehavior and disrespect ok in her eyes…. She is a good person at heart…. Any ideas??? Sandee, It really seems like you are having a difficult time and I hope that you can take a moment to hear some praise for your actions and really feel the respect for your efforts — if even from a stranger.
I have friends whose parents abandoned them to grand-parents — Mainly because the parents were not able to take care of themselves, much less a child. My friends who were being raised by thier grandparents struggled A LOT with feelings of abandonment …and lets face it — even with a grandparent stepping up to take care of them- they were still left to wonder why Mom and Dad didnt love them enough to do whatever it took to keep them together as a family.
They felt a hole in thier hearts that turned to anger, mistrust, fear and self loathing. Its impossible to explain to most caring, logical adults why a parent would ever choose ANYthing over thier own child …much less to explain this in a way that makes sense to the child being left behind. And so my friends did what any person who is fearful, confused, angry and questioning if they are worth love would do — they turned themselves against the world as they perceived the world was against them.
They turned against thier grand parents, for fear that they TOO would abandon them, they turned against themselves. They struggled for many years to understand that the world if full of equal parts suffering and love, because they found out so early in thier lives about the suffering part and not about the love part. They saw thier parents come and go, in and out of rehab, there for Christmas one year, not the next.
They visited them in jail. They heard the promises over and over that things were gonna change. And thier grandparents stood by them…. But they stood by them. Im really impressed that you have taken the step to stand by your grandaughter as she goes thru this time of such personal change and turmoil. My friends still struggle to come to terms with the fact that thier parents simply werent able to or capable of taking care of them and that is why they were raised by their grand parents.
Ive seen that too, sadly. These kiddos are constantly testing to see if we will leave them. It takes a lot of patience and understanding of this to get by. Open Adoption or Closed Adoption. I am the mother of a 13 year old daughter. I am considering using this program; everything else I have tried has failed me up to this point in trying to get through to her. She has always been a straight A student and never had trouble at school until this year; now her grades have dropped and has been in trouble quite a few times at school this year.
Her father and I divorced a few years ago and I recently remarried. We have 5 children total and we expect to have respect from all of them. With my daughter we were more lenient with her so that she would want to be here with us; about 2 weeks ago she and I had an altercation over her phone and she got into my face like a grown woman. We have not spoken since the incident except for her calling and telling me her grades and then said she had to go.
This is a hard situation because I lover her and want her with me; just not her attitude. I am wondering if this program will help me to get her back under control as far as her attitude towards me, my husband and her siblings?
That being said, I would recommend this program because it has worked for me and my kids. It can be if you submit the survey on the review of the program. Call Total Transformation on how that works! Respite Care for Adopted Children. What works for one parent may not work for another. Be careful with this program.
It is very intense. They are very strict on the dates. There is no room to budge. I returned mine 7 days late, and no refund. I thought by date received not the date they shipped it. I did get some good ideas, but not worth all the money. Which is my fault for not returning on time. So be careful — when you sign up for this program, it is very time consuming.
MarySue — I checked into this for you and when you ordered the program, you also signed up for the subscription for the help line. I do have to admit that at first I was overwhelmed too with the program.
Then I bit off a chapter at a time, listening to the CD in my car to reinforce the ideas that I was going to implement into my parenting. And that is the other thing, be open to using only what you need. This program is designed to address as many parenting situations as possible.
So go into doing it knowing that you are only going to use what you need and maybe later on you will need something different from it, and the beauty is you have it and can listen to it again to get that info. Thanks for checking in! Keep up the awesome parenting! There should be a way to access this programme. I so wish I could get it. Accessing it seems like such a faraway dream … being African in Africa …. They may loan it out as does our local Foster Family parenting group does.
Hope this helps:. But enough is enough: Am I the only one that wonders of Julie is a paid reviewer? No we are no paid reviewers. When we first started this blog, there was no such thing anyway. If you look at the disclaimer at the end of each article, we do have affiliate links in some of the articles. My husband and i married 6 years ago and he has two boys from a previous marriage.
His older son was totally out of control at I am a teacher and did not have any issues with him at all because I am very clear and hold him accountable. Wellness luminary Ben Greenfield presents a blueprint to extraordinary longevity and health: based on leading-edge science and data from the world's longest-living communities. The Mastery of Sleep Dr. Michael Breus. Two minute workouts a week is all you need with this optimal fitness program that harnesses muscle stimulation science to transform your body fast: no more endless hours in the gym.
Total Transformation Training Christine Bullock. I am a mental health professional who works with children and yet I had no control over my 10yo son. I dreaded going home at night. I tried everything and brought the total transformation as my last effort before giving up. This program is amazing. I saw small changes the first 2 weeks I used the program.
Lehman helped me to understand my child and how he thinks and why he would act out. Through the insight I was able to ask the questions to help him calm down. He is doing better in school and with his school work. His grades are improving and I no longer fear going home.
My son is acting silly and laughing more. His anger is diminishing and I can see the changes daily. The most exciting part is that I have taken the program slow and therefore; I am only half way through this journey.
I know there is so much more I will learn and I know my son will continue to improve his coping and problem solving so that we will be a harmonious family. Prior to the program, I spent money on therapy, expensive guilt gifts, time off work to think and sometimes just to cry. Now my days off of work are for vacations, chaperoning field trips and when my children are sick and want me home with them.
I no longer buy expensive guilt gifts. My son buys himself things with money he earns from his chores and helping neighbors shovel snow. I am enjoying my son and my children and try to find ways to spend time with them because I enjoy the peace that this program is restoring to my home. I'm halfway into the program I have started to implement only a few so far, and have seen improvement in my teenager's behaviour.
Thank you for helping to see that she isn't a bad kid My son is now 21 years old, after having his own place for over 6 months he was forced by circumstance to move back home I couldn't find help anywhere in my community for what we were experiencing.
I remembered seeing and hearing ads for Total Transformation and after I looked a little closer I decided to give it a go. At that point I was really desperate for a solution. Between the time I ordered the program and the time I received it things deteriorated to the point that I had to call the police on my son and due to his behavior with them he wound up being arrested.
My son spent 48 hours in jail and being psychologically evaluated. During that time I received Total Transformation and immediately began watching and listening to the program. The information provided was nothing short of transformational, for me, for my son, for our family The program totally transformed our family and took away the wedge that was dividing us.
I have more control, patience and communication with out teenager and nine year old. I no longer dread family activities or trips. It has also taught our children how to communicate and support each other.
I had my doubts about program at beginning, but am a believer now. I recommend this to all parents whom are at wits end with thier unruly children. We are disappointed to hear that you have not yet been successful with our program. We strive to create the most effective programs to help families who are struggling with non-compliant and abusive children. We understand that each family situation is unique and we are quite confident that the program can work for most parents and most situations.
We also know, however, that things can be discouraging when you are not seeing the results with the program as quickly as you hoped. If you would like help working the tools in the program with your family, please call our Parental Support Specialists.
Know that you are not alone and there is a community and a program to support families like yours for as long as you need assistance. I am a single grandmother who has legal custody of my 11 year-old grandson who was exhibiting oppositional defiant behavior on a regular basis. Life was very chaotic. The Total Transformation Program improved my grandson's behavior from the very first disk they sent to me.
My grandson is much more cooperative when I use the information I have been given by the Total Transformation Program.
Many of our consumers have found themselves in similar situations—they too have great intentions by trying to help their families, only to find that the situation has changed to where they feel they can no longer use, or even begin to use, the program. We hope that your family can do the same. We certainly apologize that your experience was not favorable. Though your circumstances changed unexpectedly, we encourage you and your daughter to hold on to the Total Transformation Program for future knowledge from its offerings when your home or hers is graced with the presence of a child.
Alternatively, may we suggest that you donate the program to another family in need or educator that may make more immediate use of the program? We hold all consumers to the same standards and uphold our policies so that we can remain consistent and fair with all of our consumers. This said, each consumer's postmark date differs due to the fact that the start of the timeframe to postmark a survey is based on when the consumer's package is delivered.
Unfortunately, we have no way of knowing any delivery date until the package is actually delivered. In regards to your experience with our Customer Service Department, we sincerely apologize that you had a negative experience.
We hope that even though you did not qualify for a refund for your survey, you have found and will continue to find successes with your family in using the tools and techniques from The Total Transformation Program. It's like a degree turn around,It has changed her for the better. I'm happy that I had the chance to try the disc.
I'm satisfied. I felt like I was a good parent but needed some more options of dealing with Pre-Teen behaviors. This product gave me some excellent ideas and options for handling behaviors not just "the same ole way"!
Thanks TTF! Thank you for sharing your disappointment with the Total Transformation Program. We do appreciate candid feedback- both good and bad. We do find that many of our consumers are successful in using a good portion of the program even with very young children because they want to be proactive, however, we understand the situation in every household is different and each child is unique.
This being said, using many of the tools and techniques from the program can provide results with younger children, such as a three year old. Typically, by the time the average child reaches the age of five, he or she should have the ability to follow all the concepts that the Total Transformation Program provides. We do understand that each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for your child. In regards to the Feedback Survey Promotion, we apologize that you felt you could not complete the survey for a refund.
The intent of the Feedback Survey Promotion is to gain a better understanding of what is, and what is not, beneficial for parents by asking for honest feedback even if you may not be able to apply all of the tools in the program. We truly hope that you will find the successes from all of the tools offered in the Total Transformation Program and apply each tool effectively as your child grows and matures.
I am very pleased with how I have learned from this program. I can now see which is more important to work on, and there is less fighting. I know how to explain and not order. Children now know what is expected and how to use words for problems, not that they always use them but they usually know when they have been wrong and will apologize or try to fix.
We are thrilled that you found The Total Transformation Program informative and easy to listen to as your first experience with our programs. Our core mission is to provide parents with a program that can really make a positive difference with their family, while also making it cost effective. While it is concerning that your impression of our website is that it is unclear and deceptive, we do appreciate your candor.
It will enable us to continually strive to present the terms and cost of our programs as clearly as possible for everyone to avoid any misunderstandings when placing an order. As far as the cost of the program, we recognize that some consumers may have difficult financial situations. Indeed, situations like this inspired us to offer promotions similar to the promotion that you signed up for, the Total Transformation Feedback Survey Promotion. To be able to provide consumers with the opportunity to receive a full refund for the program cost in exchange for their time, effort and feedback is a priceless opportunity.
Your feedback is vital to us, as we continually try to improve and create programs that will give the most benefit to families. The price of the program is not intended to overwhelm any of our consumers, but rather to provide incentive to give us honest results as they are applying the techniques of the program.
We sincerely hope you are able to find the successes that you had expected when ordering the Total Transformation Program and we look forward to receiving your feedback so that any financial burden you feel is lifted.
After all, we are in the business of connecting families to behavioral solutions that are accessible, affordable, and effective. We started listening to the first disc in the series, and our 13 year old daughter humphed about it in the back seat of the car. We had decided that she needed to be involved in what we were learning just in case she would have input. She demanded that we stop the disc and declared adamantly that it wouldn't work because she wouldn't LET it work for fear that we would thing we were great parents.
We thanked her for her input and continued listening, occasionally making comments and leaving the door open for her as well. She didn't say more that day, but the next day she said, "he really made a lot of sense We are not "done" yet, but we are well on the way to a transformation for our family!
Using the TTP, we have been able to refer back to Dr. Lehman's words as we encounter explosive moments. The explosions have reduced both in frequency and intensity, and we look forward to a continued change as we keep putting the concepts into practice. He take medicine for ADHD but the.
ODD is not improving. He gets in trouble in school no because he is not intelligent he is brilliant as one of his teachers had toll me, but because he refuses to do the work. Our relationship at home is very stressful and tense. We have a power struggle since he is three years old. A counselor recommended the Total transformation program and while purchasing that I found the ODD life line.
I'm still going through the program but as it is it had help me recognize what actions I need to take to direct my son in a different way. Also help me understand that all I can do is to teach him but it is up to him to learn. I see where I have been wrong approaching him and my response to his behavior only has escalated the difficulties.
This program is helping me see new avenues of communication and the hope and he will have a better future with a more positive attitude. The complete guide to consequences showed me exactly what I needed to do in order to be a more effective parent. I have always struggled with discipline and my kids.
My oldest child seemed impossible to get "under control". After viewing and reviewing the guide, I have finally found answers to all the problems I had with getting my kids to behave I would recommend this product to any parent struggling with out of control behavior from their child. It works on teenagers and middle school ages equally well! Thank you for the great resource!!!! This program gave us the tools to help our son to express his feelings.
Once we started watch the videos everything made sence. We saw a difference right away. My grandson has problems with anger and he is very defiant.
This is very upsetting to everyone in the family. His father gets very angry with him and does not have patience,which causes terrible confortations.
I feel this program will help with these issues. My franson is ding better and his father is trying to be calmer when the out of control fits occur. Jim is reality based. I used the tapes to help in my own life and my moms family. My work and my friends. This course us not just for kids. It will help you understand adults that have been raised loosely. I can't say enough about it. It will help you every day with life events.
It even works with large kids over Jims done an outstanding reality based problem and given the world hope. Once you understand the problem you can tackle it. It was the best investment ever made. I listen to the cd's over and over.
Ease of use with driving. I want to thank Jim for his gift to the worlda touch of reality. The package is well organized and easy to start and listen to. But I personally am having no success in effecting any changes.
I have made some changes to myself, but that does not solve the problem. First of all, thank you for your candid and honest feedback. We are here to help every family benefit from our programs—even novices and still struggling parents. Your best recourse to make immediate and real change is to work directly with our Parental Support Specialists at This number also should have been included in your Total Transformation package.
They can walk you through step-by-step in implementing each of the program tools effectively in your home and can explain how to use the tools to you if you have any questions. I also want to say that I identify with your disappointment in struggling with family behaviors. Please don't give up—you are not alone. Truly persistence and motivation to change are the keys to sustained success. Please keep us informed of your situation and experience; we can work with you to improve your experience.
We are disappointed to hear that you have not had success with our program. You might still get the help you need. Alexander Pope once said that hope springs eternal in the human breast, but Proverbs I was heart-sick for so many years but then God allowed this amazing company to come into my life and be a part of the renewal of hope, in many ways, not the least a relationship with my youngest child.
Thanks to the principles I learned in their training I am reaching out in more healthy ways and being consistently loving but firm about what I know is right. I have no words to say just how thankful I am for this program. May God continue to bless all those involved in changing lives and futures. Because my BP daughter, 27 years old, is a different case for this program as I could not use very many consequences for her abusive actions. Whew when I have been so verbally abused by her, I was getting scared.
Then when she drove her car with me in it very very fast because I hadn't agreed with "something". I also read a book, "stop walking on eggshells by Paul T. It coincided with your program and gave me strength to overcome my fears and doubts of being a good parent or not. Than you for helping me, no, us. I found that the discs did not fit in snuggly and securely, so they frequently had to be fished out of the bottom of folder where they all fell.
We totally enjoyed and learned from the program, most of the time it was a reinforcement of what we already knew, but was a great source of support and encouragement. My husband passed away a few years back when my daughter was 10 years old. He was the disciplinary force in our home for the three older children. Life got real tough for myself and my girl who was 14 when I got the program.
It helped me understand the manipulative ways of kids. It also helped me to understand how my parenting was ineffective and how to be more effective. Now, my daughter knows I mean what I say now. She wants a harmonious home as do I. She now understands the pecking order in the household and that she is NOT my peer.
I do believe she is on her way to being a very fine young lady. I am proud of her accomplishments. She is working hard at school and looking forward to a bright future. I am enjoying her company. Thanks so much for the fine insight and how to deal with the issues we were having.
It's not something that happens over night, it's a lot of trial and error, especially on the parents part, but so worth it in the end. I found I needed to do a total transformation first before my child could. I had to learn the skills necessary to talk to him in a way that he would be accountable for his actions. Our whole family benefited from the program, we communicate better and our home is quiet and feels safe.
I use the Alternative Response quite often, and that alone seems to make the biggest difference! Don't give up on the program, listen to each disc one at a time, do the workbook, and in the end you will be amazed at the results!!
My husband passed away a few months ago and he was the leader of our family and the main disciplinarian. I have a 15 year old son and a 12 year old daughter.
I ordered Total Transformation because I knew I needed guidance, I needed to know what action to take and when and I needed support to stay consistent. It has worked, we are still working at it and I listen to the CD's over and over again because I want to get this right.
My kids are surprised at how simple some of the consequences are but you can tell things are getting better. I am getting more confident in my ability to do this alone. The kids are changing some, they are normal kids that are going to test those boundaries and when they do, I revert back to my teaching from these CD's and respond accordingly. Explaining to my kids this is probably what you feel when you are angry, well guess what, this is what you can do to manage those trigger points.
I have answers for them that work thanks to this program. And this program has shifted my focus, they are not going to be happy when they receive a consequence and that is normal.
Focus on the behavior not the attitude. I love this program and I feel like it is going to guide me for the remaining years until they move onto college. The Complete Guide for Consequences really shows that you are not alone in your struggles. It gives examples of detailed problems, and then shows you how to solve these troublesome issues while keeping your cool.
This has helped us with our Autistic son, and even he now compliments the program. Don't hesitate; buy now and you will improve your family life dramatically. Very helpful CD series! These have helped me change my 'hamster on the wheel' past behavior and therefore, my family is in a much more peaceful place. Listen and DO it. I have even some of the information to work with a difficult friend situation.
You will not be disappointed! The only reason I give the program 4 vs 5 stars is that there is always room for improvement in any program. Instead, a DVD with simple instructions and an easy-to-follow system of making the child do the work instead of the parent.
James talks you through each step and you come out feeling that this is something you really CAN try. I've been in education for 20 years and I recognize a good system when I see one.
I've used it with my kids and I love the results. I even use it in school too, but don't tell anyone - it's my secret weapon! Total transformation saved my sanity. My usually sweet and caring 19 year old child became disrespectful and out of control almost over night. I suspected drugs and alcohol were part of the problem.
I found myself on the floor sobbing with grief. As a single mother, I felt alone and terrified and prayed constantly, yet the behavior continued.
At my wits end, I heard about the free offer from TT and called. Immediately I felt bathed in support and concern. Once my package arrived, I immersed myself in the CD's and put the principles to the test. The first thing I noticed was a peace that took over me and as I applied the principles, confidence blossomed.
Somehow I had given my control away and now I was getting it back. My daughter began to change as well. I had to do the changing and once I did, I got my precious daughter back. Are things perfect? No, but now I know how to handle things.
I believe that TT was the answer to my prayers. The qualities and words that come to mind when I think about the Total Transformation Program, and my experience with it, are: it's-about-time-somebody-said-it, no-bull, parent's advocate, parental lifeboat, resurrection and salvation for families, personal ownership, personal accountability, old-school common sense, teaching and modeling self-control and self-respect, teaching and modeling analytical thought over emotional impulse, teaching and modeling response versus reaction, practical, relevant and effective, immediately applicable, adaptable, respectful approaches, mother's little helper or maybe not so little , effective coaching for effective parenting, parental empowerment.
Every program out there has naysayers, without exception. I encourage parents and professionals to actually DO the lessons and techniques and apply them for a long haul before passing judgment on TTP.
And to keep in mind that the changes that will take place will not necessarily be colossal or immediate. A slow drip still fills the cup with strong coffee. The changes I see in my child are stupendous. He now replies, "Yes, mommy. He has completely made an aboutface and I owe it all to The Total Transformation. If you are a parent who finds yourself hopeless with your son or daughter geting the best of you, try The Total Transformation. It really works.
I bought the disks and listened to them in the car. Called the help line once and there was a real person who helped me to calm down and think through a plan. I have started modifying my approach with my 3 kids and got immediate positive responses. It helped even with my son who has attachment disorder, which is saying alot.
The Total Transformation Program is one of the best programs I have ever used. Listening to the CD and working with the workbook is very helpful when dealing with a problem child. I used the program as instructed and it help me as well as my child. Parents need to listen to the program as a family. Sometimes very hard for the child to sit and listen to what is being said, but after thinking and relating the issues as they were happening in our house, my child would understand why she could not talk to us the way she did.
It really is a great program and well worth the money. Hi my review of The Total Transformation Program is a pleasure to write. My husband also has ADHD. I learned so much from this program that it is true that issues which were happening in our home are no longer. I have told many friends of kids with ADD especial. I have to say the main question in our case was answered when James Lehman talked about why these types of kids act out is because they do not have any coping skills.
That statement almost immediately opened my eyes as to what was really going on with her. I like knowing what I am dealing with - then I can help my daughter - James did that for me. The only issue that I have with the program is the CD's. Some of them the audio goes in and out at times but only for a second or two.
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